Pushing Positive Conversations With Kids

October 20, 2020

Positivity > Pandemic

Being cooped up inside for months on end — and thrust into the role of “distance learning” police — can invariably lead to frustration and irritation on both sides. It’s helpful to remember that it’s everyone’s first pandemic. We’re all struggling to find our footing in this new normal.

Here’s a helpful guide to have more positive conversations with your kids, encouraging dialogue and greater independence.

It’s better than shutting our kids down when frustrating situations arise (and arise they will!).


Useful substitutions when talking with kids and teens

Instead of… Try…
Be quiet. Can you use a softer voice?
What a mess. It looks like you had fun! How can we clean up?
Do you need help? I’m here to help if you need me.
I explained how to do that yesterday. Maybe I can show you another way.
Stop crying. It’s okay to cry.
You’re okay. How are you feeling?
It’s not that hard. You can do hard things.
We don’t talk like that. Please use kind words.

Credit: WeAreTeachers.


Trust your instincts, stress the positive when possible

Every parent knows what’s best for their child, but emotions are running high. Between quarantine, virtual school work, Zoom meetings and being around each other nonstop, it can be good to take a breath (do it with me now… inhale… and exhale…) and process before reacting. Positivity feeds positivity, right?

Oh, and don’t forget to be kind to yourself too. Maybe start a journal to get some of that aggravation out on paper.


CA insider info: If you’re looking for a way to mix things up, our ice rink and roller rink are open for limited capacities. You can also play a round of mini golf or hit up the batting cage at Columbia SportsPark (you don’t even need a reservation!).


For more tips, check out the CA Parents’ Corner blog.

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“Today is your opportunity to build the tomorrow you want.” – Ken Poirot

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